Mother Mary Comes to Me By Arundhati Roy Scribner Books ISBN: 978-1668094716 352pp. Our relationship with our mother is complicated; I dare say more than it is with our father. That is because, all over the world, the mother’s role is venerated as the provider of nurture and unconditional love. Anything that veers from that is vilified — think Mommie Dearest, the memoir, then movie, about Joan Crawford’s alleged abuse of her adopted daughter. That phrase conjures up the worst images about motherhood. This notion of mothers and motherhood being perfect also explains why there is still a lot of taboo around postpartum depression. To admit you’re feeling anything other than perfect following childbirth brings about feelings of shame because society places a lot of unrealistic pressures on women. Sure, things are changing and there are so many resources to help women with pregnancy, postpartum and parenting, but it takes a rare kind of no-holds-barred honesty to describe motherhood and/or mothers as complex, not ...
Over the last 50-plus years, I have sat through numerous presentations on government, NGO, masters and PhD students’ development projects, in various countries, both in what is now known as the global North and global South. In addition, international financial institutions (IFIs), such as the World Bank and the Asian Development Bank, have also sought my assistance. I have also been a member of various United Nations committees on physical and social development, and a consultant to them. As the chief adviser and the chairperson of the Orangi Pilot Project (OPP) and the Urban Resource Centre (URC), I have challenged the structure of thinking of many such projects and documented my concerns regularly. The most important thing I have learned in the process is that most of these projects have a very strong anti-poor bias and are primarily concerned with brick and mortar aspects of problems. ANTI-POOR BIAS As far as academia is concerned, almost all teachers and supervisors bring their class prejudices with them...